Clarity Through Self-Compassion

Series 1: Week 3 - Living Authentically: A Journey to the True Self

Getting honest with yourself isn’t always comfortable. You may see patterns you’d rather deny or truths that feel heavy. Many people stop there, turning honesty into another weapon for self-criticism.

That was me for a long time. As someone with mild dyslexia and ADHD, I grew up believing I was “stupid” or “less than.” My inner critic was relentless. I remember the first time I had to file a financial report as a new practice administrator - I was completely overwhelmed. Instead of reminding myself it was a new role and I was still learning, my mind went straight to: If I weren’t dyslexic, this would be so much easier. And of course, my inner critic eagerly agreed.

For years, honesty with myself sounded more like judgment than truth.

The shift came slowly, through meditation, walking in nature, surrounding myself with positive people, and most importantly, learning to love myself in spite of my flaws, upbringing, and choices. Over time, my inner dialogue began to change. Instead of, You’re stupid, it became, Look how far you’ve come. Look what you’ve accomplished by showing up, one small step at a time. Sometimes it’s as simple as telling myself, You got this. You’re a badass. It’s going to be okay.

That’s what self-compassion looks like in practice. It’s giving yourself the same grace you already extend to others. It’s seeing that your “failures” often reveal strength. And it’s realizing that when you can love yourself, it becomes easier to love others without judgment.

Self-compassion doesn’t make you weak. In fact, it makes you braver. It gave me the courage to take more risks, to trust myself, and to know that no matter what happens, I can handle it.

Self-compassion isn’t indulgence. It’s the bridge between honesty and transformation. Begin with honesty, but soften it with compassion. Pause. Step back. Give yourself space to remember: we are all perfectly flawed. From that place, clarity follows, and clarity opens the way forward.

If you’re ready to explore what self-compassion could unlock in your own life, I’d love to walk with you on that journey. Reach out to schedule a free Discovery call.